I hate it when tumblr shows that “are you okay?” message when you search thinspo. Like bitch of course I’m not, I’m still fat af and I’m starving. Now show me the thinspo.
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5 years ago i was a fucking mess & now i’m a fucking mess but at peace with it and with cooler fashion sense
a gentle reminder that you did well this year. you met new people, learned new things and felt new feelings. you did so many things that made you scared. you picked yourself up off the floor after feeling completely defeated or heartbroken. there were some really tough nights but you survived them all. you made people happy just by existing. you accepted many goodbyes but the serendipitous meetings made up for them. it was your own hard work that paid off but you always downplay it or compare yourself to others. that’s not fair on yourself. you’ve come so far from the first day of this year. you have more wisdom and strength now. yes, other people seem more “successful” but does that even matter? please don’t think so lowly of yourself to only think about your failures. 2018 was your year of growth. I hope you take a moment to be kind to yourself, and believe that 2019 will be even better.
BPD symptoms to stop making fun of and recognise as what they really are:
Needing attention
Outbursts of emotion (especially anger)
Not getting out of bed
Social withdrawal
Self-destructive behaviours
Being ‘clingy’
Forgetting things
Getting upset about everything
Bad self-care
Promiscuity
‘Weird’ or ‘unusual’ triggers
Needing validation
Needing attention - with out constant stimulation from our relationships, we forget we even mean anything to anyone.
Outbursts of emotion (especially anger) - there are 5 intensity levels. at levels 4-5, we become the emotion. it sucks. (source: dialectical behavioral therapy)
Not getting out of bed - with bpd, depression is a reoccurring mood.
Social withdrawal - we are champs at perfecting facades. don’t always have the energy for it though.
Self-destructive behaviours - sometimes needed to escape those 4-5 intensity emotions.
Being ‘clingy’ - fear of abandonment. love addicted. not knowing how else to care about people.
Forgetting things - emotional impermanence. we lose perspective of things we did if its associated with something painful (aka all things, all things are painful).
Getting upset about everything - impossible to see the good in anything unless someone sucked the cognitive dissonance right out of our heads. in other words, splitting–it’s a thing.
Bad self-care- see: depression is a revolving and reoccurring mood.
Promiscuity - see: needing attention because we don’t feel like “real” people.
‘Weird’ or ‘unusual’ triggers - sorry if you hate the word ‘trigger’, but that’s exactly what this is. emotional ptsd. how else would you explain, “oh fuck, that song reminds me of when _____. welp. time to dissociate. haha i’m not here anymore. haha, i don’t feel anything.”???
Needing validation - we want attention to feel like people. we need validation to feel like good people.
WISH I FIGURED THIS SHIT OUT A DECADE AGO.
you’re welcome.
fuck
i know everyone’s like ‘2018 has been so long! black panther came out this year!’ and stuff but the one that really shook me was that queer eye came out this year
like
the first season